Month: September 2017

Ep 17 – No Glove, No Love: A World Sex Health Celebration

September is Sex Health Month and September 4th was World Sex Health Day. To celebrate, the No Free Drinks crew dedicated an episode to talk about sex topics that unfortunately are not always talked about in black and brown communities. In this episode, we will talk about the importance of practicing safe sex and getting tested. We also touch on topics that get in the way of having pleasurable sexual experiences such as erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness.

 

No Free Drinks was inspired to kick-off the sex education and wellness series after finding that sexual health is celebrated across the world. This year’s theme is “Love, Bonding, and Intimacy” and you can find more information here: http://www.worldsexology.org/news/world-sexual-health-day/

 

The organization that spearheads the movement is called the World Association for Sexual Health and they encourage that people join the celebration in any way they can. If you are interested in learning more and want to participate in the celebrations you can check out this worksheet:http://www.worldsexology.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/WSHD2017-annual-guidelines.pdf

 

Another important organization to know is the American Sexual Health Association- ASHA was founded in 1914 in New York City, formed out of early 20th-century social reform movements focused on fighting sexually transmitted infections and prostitution. Now, more than 100 years after its creation, ASHA remains America’s nonprofit authority for sexual health information. You can learn more here: http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/celebrating-sexual-health-september/

 

After introducing these organizations that play such a large role in celebrating World Sex Health Day, Lina D explains why the No Free Drinks crew decided to do a 2 part series for the vulva and they reveal that they will also be doing a 2 part series on the penis! Stayed tuned for more educational moments and orgasm tips.

 

Brock then goes on to define sexual health. Sexual health must go beyond traditional views of simply avoiding disease or unplanned pregnancy and should include experiencing pleasure and intimacy. Because of this, we wanted to address some less commonly talked about topics that can get in the middle of sex and achieving intimacy. We reemphasize the importance of communication is having a healthy relationship and having better sex.

 

Erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness are challenges that may lead to unpleasurable sexual encounters. These are important to talk about as they might not always be related to physical reasons only. Brock and Westley give advice on what to do in these situations. Reasons for erectile dysfunction might be attributed to whiskey dick, stress, over thinking, and lack of emotional connection. As a partner, it is important for you to know how to react in these situations.  Just because he has gone limp doesn’t mean that it is game over.

 

The female equivalent of erectile dysfunction is vaginal dryness.  Lina D talks about how using lube shouldn’t be frowned upon even if there is a preference for her getting wet from arousal.

 

Following that conversation, the co-hosts switch gears to talk about the importance of communicating with your partner about getting tested.  The co-hosts talk about a couple of guidelines they use to ensure they keep on top of staying safe:

  • Depends on how active and how many partners
  • At least annual
  • Whenever there unprotected sex happens with an “unknown” partner and/or nonmonogamous partner

It is important to know your status for moral, legal, criminal and/or civil implications. The co-hosts also cover the importance of practicing safe sex for protection from STIs and unwanted pregnancies.  The co-hosts agree that there are many types of protection and birth control and want to dedicate a future episode to the topic to make sure they cover all the right issues.

 

If you want to celebrate World Sex Health Month with us feel free to tag us in your comments and posts.  September isn’t over yet, and sexual health is an everyday priority that will contribute to a better sex life.

Ep 16 – The Juicebox Monologues (Part 2)

Welcome back to part 2 of The Juicebox Monologues! Recall that last week we brought you part 1 where we covered the anatomy of the vagina, walked through crucial facts every dude needs to know to pleasure a woman, and provided tips for giving her the most mind-blowing orgasms in her life. If you haven’t been able to listen to part 1, make sure to go back and listen. There is so much to cover when it comes to how amazing the vulva is and every man and woman needs to know how to please this amazing organ.  

 

In this episode, we continue to talk about the different orgasms women love and give tips to achieve those mind-blowing orgasms.

 

In the last episode, we talked about clitoral and penetration orgasms.  In this episode, the crew talks about the other types of orgasms.  The G-spot stands for the Gräfenberg spot (named for German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg), is characterized as an erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms, and potential female ejaculation.  According to a wiki (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot), it is typically reported to be located 5–8 cm (2–3 in) up the front (anterior) vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra. Brock, Westley, and Lina D give their points for finding it and have a brief back and forth on the texture of the g-spot.

 

They continue to give tips on how to give a woman an orgasm through a mix of oral, penetration, or g spot play- this is a mixed orgasm.  They talk about how to make her achieve multiple orgasms. And talk about orgasm by nipple stimulation and anal play.  The guys talk about the cues they use to know that their partner is pleased and has orgasmed. And Lina D talks about her point of view that an orgasm doesn’t have to be a mysterious thing for men or women. She encourages women to masturbate and discover the things that they enjoy. The key to masturbating and self-discovery is to be relaxed and comfortable with your body.

 

The NFD crew compare how women may not always orgasm during sex, while men are likely to always orgasm. Brock and Westley share their experiences and point out that foreplay is a necessity when having sex especially since the majority of women cum from clitoral stimulation.  The stat on how many women cum from vagina penetration only is low, about 18%. Lina D agrees and points out that even though she doesn’t always orgasm that she still enjoys having sex especially when a man has dedicated himself to giving amazing foreplay.  Amazing foreplay should be every lover’s goal.

 

In this episode, the NFD crew goes into a deep dive into squirting and talks about the anatomy of what makes squirting possible.  They also dispel myths about squirting- it is not pee. And women can experiment with themselves to see if they can squirt. Lina D encourages women not to be disappointed if they don’t squirt right away as some women do not get stimulated by playing with their g-spot.

 

Lastly, Lina D highlights some amazing finds that are proof that pussy is power.  To read more about the topics covered in this episode, you can visit: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a50638/ways-vaginas-are-better-than-penises/

Also to access Part 1, click this link: The Juicebox Monologues (Part 1)

Here is why the vagina is powerful:

  1. It can lift weights:
    1. Tatyana Kozhevnikova unofficially owns the World’s Strongest Vagina by virtue of her record for vagina weightlifting, according to the Sun. She recently showed off her prowess on “The Body Shocking Show” in England.  She has lifted up to 31 lbs and she said she has gotten here after 20+ years of training
    2. She developed a patented program “Intimate Gymnastics.” Intimate Gymnastics is about strengthening the muscles of your vagina and pelvic floor
    3. Watch the video: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/08/worlds-strongest-vagina_n_2837269.html
    4. Get step by step instructions on how to start exercising your kegel muscles: http://www.intimfitness.com/praktika/programma1.htm
    5. It takes as little as 5 minutes a day
  2. Clitorises have twice as many nerve endings as penises do. Clits have 8,000 nerve endings total (compared to a measly 4,000 in peens).
  3. Vaginas can trap penises, it is called penis captivus “the pelvic muscles of the vagina clamp down on the penis much more firmly than usual, which can make it difficult or impossible to remove the penis from the vagina.” see article: http://www.redbookmag.com/body/pregnancy-fertility/a38982/surprising-vagina-facts/

Ep 15 – The Juicebox Monologues (Part 1)

In honor of Sexual Health Month, and because not enough guys (and even women) really understand all the parts of the beautiful lotus flower the No Free Drinks crew wanted to bring you a  deep dive into the anatomy of the vulva.  Some of you might be wondering why we choose to say vulva and not vagina.  Well that is exactly what we start talking about in this episode.  We actually ended up bringing you two episodes about the vulva! There is just so much to cover when it comes to how amazing the vulva is and every man and woman needs to know how to pleasure this amazing organ.  Here is the first part of the 2 part series- The Juicebox Monologues.

 

In the first part of the Juicebox Monologues, Lina D opens up by talking about the etymology of the word “vagina.” The word comes from the Latin root meaning “sheath” and it is also the source of word vanilla.  When Hernando Cortes went about on the conquest of the Aztec empire, his men discovered the vanilla plant and dubbed it vainilla, meaning “little pod” or “little sheath,” from the Latin vagina, “sheath.”

 

After these fun facts, Lina D was ready to go in with Brock and Westley to put their knowledge to the test.  The first question- “How many parts make up the vulva?” The vulva  refers to a female’s external genitalia and consists of ten different parts:

 

  1. Mons Veneris
  2. Vestibule
  3. Pubic Hair
  4. Labia Majora
  5. Labia Minora
  6. Vaginal Opening- this is the part that is most often referred to as the main part of the women’s sex organ. But oh child, you need to make sure you know more than just the vagina.  Yes the vagina might be heaven on earth for men, but this episode isn’t about the penis.
  7. Hymen
  8. Clitoral Glans
  9. Clitoral Hood
  10. Urethral Opening

 

For the details on each part of the vulva reference: http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/overview-female-reproductive-system

 

As Lina D walks through each part of the vulva, Westley and Brock share their knowledge on each part and how they have given it pleasure.

 

  1. Mons Veneris- the fatty layer of skin that covers the pubic bone.
  2. Vestibule- the area between the urethral opening and the vaginal opening.
  3. Pubic Hair- hair that grows on the mons and protects the vagina from bacteria and unnecessary pathogens.
  4. Labia Majora- the two outer folds of fatty skin that lay on the outside of the vulva, they are there to protect the more sensitive parts of the inner vulva.
  5. Labia Minora- is the skin between the labia majora, they are there to protect the vaginal opening. They are erotically sensitive because they contain more nerve endings than most skin tissue. The labia minora have blood vessels throughout the tissue that allows blood flow to increase during arousal. The tissue darkens and increases in size during arousal due to vasocongestion and can be stimulated for sexual pleasure.  This area of the vulva is great for seeing if the woman is aroused!
  6. Vaginal Opening- the entrance of the vagina into the vaginal canal
  7. Hymen- tissue that covers, or partially covers, the vaginal opening.
  8. Clitoral Glans- or the part of the clitoris that is visible, it is the most sensitive part of the clitoris and can be sexually pleasurable when stimulated. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings while the penis has 4,000 nerve endings.
  9. Clitoral Hood- covers a portion of the clitoris, it protects the glans and retracts during arousal.
  10. Urethral Opening- the urethra is located between the clitoris and the vaginal opening. There are Skene glands located around the urethra that are responsible for squirting.

After going through the parts of the vulva, the co-hosts start talking about how to make a woman orgasm.  They start by talking about clitoral and penetration orgasms.  There are 8 types of orgasms in total, but Lina D, Westley, and Brock decide to take a break here and leave the rest of the material for part 2 of the Juicebox Monologues.

 

Ep 14 – Deal Or No Deal

It all started with a listener question, “Are you open to dating a stripper?” That question got us thinking about a deeper topic that is rooted in our decision making when we date and vet people- deal breakers. In this episode, Westley, Brock, and Lina D discuss the most common deal breakers in dating and talk about the differences between preferences and deal breakers. Make sure you know the difference, or you could be limiting your dating pool!