Season 1

Episode 10 – Season Finale

We can’t believe the end of season 1 of Bold & Bawdy is here! Check us out as we reminisce our favorite moments of the season. Want to know what we will be up to over break? Want some advice on dealing with the holidays and closing the year strong? We got that too!

 

The co-hosts share their favorite moments and episodes! If you are a new listener, listen to this episode to get an idea of the content we created this season.

We talk about some of the things we will be focused on over the coming months. Maddie is going to finally going to study for her licensing exam, Westley will be working on building his photography skills, and Lina D is working on her summer body for December.

The episode closes with advice for dealing with the holidays and ending the year strong. Bold and Bawdy will be back next year. Full release timing to be announced!

 

I love that we have stayed true to highlighting the issues and staying woke

Maddie: I enjoyed the variety of topics we covered this season; it’s why we rebranded but I loved how it felt more true to who we are

Episode 9 – Me Too: In Politics

Bold and Bawdy Ep 9

Have you been following the story with Brett Kavanaugh’s nomination and the sexual assault allegations? We recap the latest since the hearings, discuss our thoughts, and highlight how when it comes to politics we are yet to see an advancement in women’s rights despite the Me Too Movement.

 

Westley kicks off this episode with a quick recap of the situation surrounding Kavanaugh. These are the women who have come forth with allegations of sexual misconduct and assault.

The women who have come forth

  • Dr. Christine Blasey Ford: Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her when she was about 15 at a party in suburban Maryland in the early 1980s. Described a drunken Judge Kavanaugh pinning her on a bed, trying to take her clothing off and covering her mouth to keep her from screaming.
  • Deborah Ramirez: 83-84 school year at Yale University, when she and Judge Kavanaugh were freshmen, he exposed himself to her during a drinking game in a dorm suite.
  • Julie Swetnick:  she observed Judge Kavanaugh at parties where women were verbally abused, inappropriately touched and “gang raped.”Judge Kavanaugh drinking “excessively” at parties and engaging in “abusive and physically aggressive behavior toward girls, including pressing girls against him without their consent, ‘grinding’ against girls, and attempting to remove or shift girls’ clothing to expose private body parts.”

After watching the hearing, including the SNL version (which we find to be a really accurate representation of what happened), these are our reactions.

Maddie is tired of the rhetoric and pretending reported sexual assault is always an attack on men. It should be treated simply as a woman speaking her truth.

Lina D observes how in politics the progressive impacts of the me too movement have been limited at best. She is bothered that the default reaction when a woman comes forward with sexual assault allegations is victim blame and discredit women.

Westley questions why it took two female victims to confront Senator Flake for their to be action.

Here is our view on what is wrong with society and how survivors of sexual violence are let down by the criminal justice system. You can read more here.  

Did you know that most cases of sexual assault are never reported?

  • Sexual assault is the most unreported crime- over 80% of survivors never report their experiences to the police.
  • Reasons for this are often rooted in fear. Fear of disbelief, of unjustified blame, of retribution, of re-traumatisation, of the impact on their family and community and of being let down by the system.
  • Did you know that only 8% of cases reported to police are taken to trial? The process of a trial itself is a really stressful process for the victim especially because the prosecutor looks to undermine the survivor’s credibility and reliability.

We close the episode with a call for reform on the system and changing how society treats victims. We need to listen to the victim and ensure they have proper access to legal, psychological and advocacy support. Let’s continue to challenge the myths and prejudice that surround sexual violence.

Ep 7 – IRL – In Real Life

Episode description: Is dating in real life dead? In this episode we look into the the rise of online dating and discuss if dating in real life from start to finish is even a thing anymore. We welcome a special guest! Sophia joins us to give her perspective and strategies for dating from the perspective of someone that has been off the market for 10 years and is just getting back into the scene. For those of you that are over online dating, we provide tips for changing up your dating approach.

 

We start the episode by reviewing the history of online dating and the websites and apps that have shaped the future of dating. You can read the entire article here.

The milestones at a glance:

  • Match launched in 1995
  • AIM launched in 1997
  • eHarmony launched in 2000
  • OKCupid 2000s
  • Tinder’s arrival in 2012

Now that we have spent dating online for over 20 years, economists have looked into the impact online dating has made on society. These are the findings:

  • more than ⅓ of marriages start online
  • There is evidence that suggests that relationships that start from online dating lead to stronger and more diverse marriages
  • The economists examining the trends are Josué Ortega and Philipp Hergovich. They are looking at the data on how marriages and relationships are forming. The have found that online dating tools may actually be helping more people get together in new ways.

We talk about these findings and infuse our perspective of what we find interesting.

Sophia, Westley, Maddie, and Lina D all share their personal experiences with dating online and in real life. Sophia gives her perspective on the importance of having a dating strategy so that you don’t waste your time. We also talk through the pros and cons of dating in real life. You will want to listen to the entire episode, but here are some teasers:

  • My last relationship and most recent situationships started online but I feel like I’m a harsher judge with those guys on the onset and just expect bullshit. Since the connection happened online, I am more skeptical. -Maddie
  • I think the benefits of meeting in real life are more intangible. There is an element of security tied to meeting someone in person. You feel an instant attraction and know the chemistry is real. This makes you more driven to get to know that person. -Lina D
  • Meeting in real life is better because the catfish factor is non-existent. -Westley

And to wrap this episode Maddie provides her tips for getting off the apps and putting yourself out there to meet people in real life.  

Episode 4 – Boycott For What

Boycott For What

 

Episode Description: In today’s social media dominated world we see outraged calls for boycotts when brands, companies, or celebrities take part in actions that reflect tone death opinions, appropriate cultures, or misrepresent reality. But how committed are we to these calls for boycotts? In this week’s episode we recount the role boycotts have played in history and discuss the evolving role that boycotts have in society today.    

 

So what is a boycott? According to Webster, boycott refers to an action in which one engages in a concerted refusal to have dealings with (a person, a store, an organization, etc.) usually to express disapproval or to force acceptance of certain conditions. In today’s world, it feels like there is a call for a boycott almost everyday. Social media has facilitated this given the ease and rapidness of information transfer. But before we dive into the boycotts of today, let’s talk about the role boycotts have played in history considering the fact that social media did not exist back then.

Maddie kicks off the history lesson by recounting the details of her favorite boycott- the Boston Tea Party. Lina D expands upon the history of the Grape Boycott and Cesar Chavez.  This is a noteworthy boycott because it reflects how widespread the force of this type of action had and it highlights the length of commitment to a cause. The grape boycotts took place between the 1960’s and continued to surface until the 1980’s. If you want to read the full deep dive given by Lina D in the episode see below. You can also read about other boycotts in this PBS article.

Cesar Chavez & The Grape Boycott:

  • He was born to immigrant parents and in 1939 he moved to California with his family to work various fields up and down the state
  • He encountered working conditions that he would dedicate his life to change: wretched migrant camps, corrupt labor contractors, meager wages for backbreaking work, bitter racism.
  • He drew from the of civil rights movement, insisted on nonviolence, relied on volunteers from urban universities and religious organizations, allied himself with organized labor, and used mass mobilization techniques such as a famous march on Sacramento in 1966 that brought the grape strike and consumer boycott into the national spotlight.

Chavez founded the National Farm Workers Association in 1962. His union joined with the Agricultural Workers Organizing Committee in its first strike against grape growers in California, and the two organizations later merged to become the United Farm Workers.

  • Although the first contracts were signed in 1966, there were many more years of strife. In 1968 Chavez fasted for 25 days to protest the increasing advocacy of violence within the union. Victory came finally on July 29, 1970, when 26 Delano growers formally signed contracts recognizing the UFW and bringing peace to the vineyards.
  • Fast forward to 1984 when Chavez inaugurated an international boycott of table grapes in response to the grape industry’s refusal to control the use of pesticides on its crops

Boycotts played a large role in changing unfair conditions. We take a look at how effective boycotts have been with a special lens to the efficacy of consumer boycotts today. You can also read this article that explores the times that company boycotts work.   

  • “Boycotts are rarely the precipitating factor for change. Rather, they bring attention to an issue and signal the magnitude and intensity with which a group feels a particular way,” Schweitzer said. “In most cases, a small minority of people call for a boycott that the wider community fails to support by taking substantive action.”

Let’s take a look at some modern day boycotts that have actually worked. In response to the HB2 bill passed by North Carolina, the NBA announced on July 21, 2016, that the league would move its 2017 All-Star Weekend from Charlotte to New Orleans. The loss of revenue to North Carolina was estimated at $100 million. You know that drove some change when this action hit Charlotte’s bottom line. Then in 2017 we saw NFL viewership drop 9.7% with the Kaepernick boycott. In a boycott of Arizona immigration legislation, the liberal polling firm Center for American Progress wrote a 2010 report called “Stop the Conference” that estimated that Arizona lost $45 million in convention business because of a boycott called after passage of SB 1070. This law targeted illegal immigration.

Although historically they’ve been successful we have to consider if social media is watering down the effectiveness since everyone and there momma can demand a boycott. We talk about social media’s role in boycotts by choosing to make an example of recent calls for boycotts. Here is where we give our 2 cents:

  • H&M
  • Dove
  • Starbucks: 106,920 mentions of #BoycottStarbucks posted across social platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram from Saturday through Monday.
  • Kanye:
    • Said that slavery was a choice on May 1, 2018
    • large crowds were expected to greet the debut of Kanye West’s fashion label’s collaboration with Australian sportswear brand 2XU. The line boasted $375 bike shorts and $415 neoprene leggings. A 2016 Yeezy launch in Sydney had found fans lining up around the block, but this time, according to The Sydney Morning Herald, customers were a no-show and the event was shut down after just 45 minutes.

Lina D is a proponent of speaking with your dollars. If you are currently giving financial support to an entity that does not align with your values, you should reconsider. Although you might think that it is only 1 voice, you would be surprised about the impact it can have.

After a review of these events, we ask ourselves “how long are boycotts meant to last?” Listen in to hear our opinions. We also provide our thoughts on what the solution should be long term. What are your thoughts?

Episode 3: The Move In: A Look at Cohabitation Trends

Episode Description: Are you thinking about taking the next step and moving in together? Listen to this episode to get all sides of the story. Cohabitation can be a scary step and it may not be for everyone. We talk about the pros and cons of cohabitation and look into the most recent trends.

 

What is cohabitation? It’s a situation in which a couple chooses to live together and have a sexual relationship. Cohabitation has been defined as “two unrelated persons of the opposite sex who share common living arrangements in a sexually intimate relationship without legal or religious sanction.”

Lina D opens up the episode by discussing how she was raised to think about cohabitation. Growing up in a Salvadoran household meant there were strong views against cohabitation. Her mom believed that marriage before sex was a requirement so living with the boyfriend was out of the question. She gives a recount of how her parents always talked negatively about cousins that were cohabiting and having kids. Interestingly enough, they were less concerned about people who were living together without kids but there was still an element of judgement. Lina D talks about the words (in Spanish) that are used to describe the partner: el marido or el mari-novio which was said in such a tone that showed a type of disdain and disapproval for the situation. What’s worse, is that women somehow lost their identity when they decided to move in with their significant other. All of the sudden they would be referred to as “la mujer.” Maddie and Westley explain how in Haitian culture they weren’t as judgemental but it was still preferred that couples get married before they decided to live together.

Maddie and Westley also share their views on cohabitation. Maddie would never do it because it would get in the way of her leading a celibate life. Westley agrees that his upbringing led him to believe that only married couples should live together, but when he was young he said he would only do it if he felt something special for the person. Westley and Lina D then discuss how they came about deciding to move in together.

So what are the stats around living together? We take a look at Pew Social Trends and find that one-in-four parents living with a child in the United States today are unmarried. “Driven by declines in marriage overall, as well as increases in births outside of marriage, this marks a dramatic change from a half-century ago, when fewer than one-in-ten parents living with their children were unmarried (7%).” Trends show that fewer Americans are getting married, and that it’s becoming more common for unmarried people to have babies. In 1970 there were 26 births per 1,000 unmarried women ages 15 to 44, while that rate in 2016 stood at 42 births per 1,000 unmarried women. Meanwhile, birthrates for married women have declined, from 121 births per 1,000 down to about 90. This one came as a shock to Lina D- you should listen to the banter between Maddie and Lina D. In 1997, the first year for which data on cohabitation are available, 20% of unmarried parents who lived with their children were also living with a partner, now that share has increased to 35%. Pew Research found some interesting trends tied to age. Roughly half of those living with an unmarried partner are younger than 35. Since 2007, the number of cohabiting adults ages 50 and older has grown by 75%.

 

We discuss our views on whether cohabitation is bad. Some studies have shown that living together prior to marriage most likely ends in divorce, but more recent studies show the opposite- cohabitation alone isn’t the culprit for divorce. According to this Time article living together doesn’t totally keep people from divorce, but it isn’t the marriage killer it was once thought to be. Here are some interesting facts surfaced by this article:

  • What leads to divorce is when people move in with someone – with or without a marriage license – if they aren’t mature and either choose incompatible partners or conduct themselves in ways that threaten the longevity of a relationship.
  • Economist Evelyn Lehrer (University of Illinois-Chicago) says the longer people wait past 23, the more likely a marriage is to stick. Her analysis shows that for every year a woman waits to get married, right up until her early 30s, she reduces her chances of divorce.
  • 70% of all women aged 30 to 34 have lived with a boyfriend and many are educated and wealthy.

Maddie talks about the reasons why she would never consider moving in with someone before marriage. Ladies if your priority is to get a ring put on it, then listen to the episode to help you sort out your stance on the issue. Maddie offers great advice. She also references an article from Probe and explains how those who live together before they get married are putting their future marriage in danger.

Obviously living together isn’t a one size fits all issue. Make sure you listen to this episode and inform yourself on the different points of view.

Ep 2 – Pura Vida: Rethinking Work-Life Balance

Pura Vida: Rethinking Work-Life Balance

Episode Description:

In this episode we dissect the concept of work-life balance and provide our tips for achieving healthy balance and working smarter in corporate America. If you haven’t heard the term “Pura Vida” it is a way of thinking embraced in Costa Rica, and it refers to having a perspective to life that evokes a spirit that is laid back and optimistic. Take that concept and apply it to how you view your work life and we start moving in a direction that is healthier and more productive.

 

According to Wikipedia, work-life balance is the concept that an individual needs to balance time allocated for work and other aspects of life. Areas of life other than work-life can be, but not limited to personal interests, family and social or leisure activities.

We talk about the different areas that impact work and personal life from our experiences, and we also look at general trends in the U.S.

If you didn’t know, there are studies that look into high level trends in the workplace.  We looked at Gallup’s State of the American Workplace 2017, and according to that study, 53 percent of employees say that it is “very important” for them to have a role that allows them to have greater work-life balance and better personal well-being. While that may sound like a good stat, you have to wonder, why don’t more people value better balance?

We answer that question throughout this episode and come to the conclusion that a piece of it is due to generational differences. Generations that came prior to the millennial workforce, came up the ranks and worked in environments where long work hours were the norm. Priorities have shifted and the younger generations are looking for more balance and shifting how they think about work and life.

Below are some of the areas we discuss.  We give tips to those that feel like navigating a well balanced life and career is difficult to pursue in practice.  

  • Kids v. No Kids: parents aren’t the only people that need flexible working arrangements. Those of us without kids want it too!
  • Leaving Vacation on the table (AKA why aren’t you going on vacation?!?!): Project Time-Off’s 2017 Under-Vacationed America Report found that 54 percent of Americans did not use all their vacation time- 662 million vacation days went unused. As active workforce members, it is up to us to place the intended value on vacation time and take vacation. Those that don’t prioritize taking vacation are contributing to work cultures where work supersedes time off.
  • Dads are entitled to Paternity leave: Regardless of how dads were classified (as “egalitarian, divided or traditional” in their parenting role) in the 2017 Boston College Center for Work & Family’s Study: The New Dad: The Career-Caregiving Conflict, researchers found that ALL working dads want more time with their children.  And that is across all generations, from Millennials to Gen X to Baby Boomers.
  • The Millennials Workforce: the 2017 Deloitte Millennial Survey found that 82 percent of those taking the survey expressed a positive impact on overall wellbeing, health and happiness, and an 81 percent impact on their productivity when their employer fosters an environment of flexibility.

 

Want more reading material?

 

The Evolving Definition of Work-life Balance

Where Trends Need to be Going at a Faster Speed Work-Life balance is a myth

The most compelling work life balance trends in the US so far (2017)

Ep 1 – Woke In Review

Episode 1: Woke in Review

In the first episode of Bold & Bawdy we talk about the importance of staying woke, especially in today’s America. Trump’s coming into the presidency has awaken and embolden the spirit of racism in this country. We take a walk through the history of oppression that blacks have faced and highlight many of the events that are oddly similar to what is happening today in 2018.  

 

So what is woke?

Staying woke comes from “stay awake,” and it means to stay informed of the shitstorm going on in times of turmoil and conflict, specifically on occasions when the media isn’t focusing on the real issues.

We did some research to give you a recap of the history of systemic injustices and America’s commitment to keeping racism alive. It is said that “America’s original sin is racism.” The history of blacks in America started with slavery, followed by Jim Crow laws, then segregation, and then to today’s not-so-invisible hands guiding housing and education policy, the wage gap, health disparities, how banks give loans. And we can’t forget police brutality, food insecurity and disinvestment in black and brown communities. You can read this article about overt racism.

In history, the most overt acts of racism happened during the Jim Crow era (1877- 1950’s)

Lynching was a socially acceptable way to resolve anything and everything whites were angry about in relation to the free blacks. In the south, people were blaming their financial problems on the newly freed slaves that lived around them. From 1882-1968, 4,743 lynchings occurred in the United States, these are only the recorded numbers but we know that many were never recorded. You can read more in this NAACP article.

Another act of overt racism was the Race Riots. They are described as a “pattern of racial violence” that emerged in which white mob assaults were directed against entire Black communities. They were caused by a great number of social, political and economic factors. Joseph Boskin, author of Urban Racial Violence observed that there were certain general patterns in the major twentieth century race riots, we summarize them below and you can access the original article here for more.

  1. In each of the race riots, with few exceptions, it was white people that sparked the incident by attacking Black people.
  2. In the majority of the riots, some extraordinary social condition prevailed at the time of the riot: prewar social changes, wartime mobility, post-war adjustment, or economic depression.
  3. The majority of the riots occurred during the hot summer months.
  4. Rumor played an extremely important role in causing many riots. Rumors of some criminal activity by Blacks against whites perpetuated the actions of white mobs.
  5. The police force, more than any other institution, was invariably involved as a precipitating cause or perpetuating factor in the riots. In almost every one of the riots, the police sided with the attackers, either by actually participating in, or by failing to quell the attack.
  6. In almost every instance, the fighting occurred within the Black community.

 

The importance of social media

“Historians of the 1960s talk about how the media of the time helped establish a “new common sense” about race in America. I think the new common sense being established now is that   racism and the struggle against it do not exist somewhere in the distant past; racial activism didn’t end after King and the Black Panther Party. Technology has helped make today’s struggle feel both different from and continuous with the civil rights era. All the terror and greatness we associate with that moment is right in front of our faces, as near to us as our screens.” You can read more in the Wired article.

We talk about the role that social media plays today in allowing us to stay informed and how it is an effective way to stay connected to the cause. It also provides a platform to expose those that are racist.

 

Things we need to stay woke about in 2018

We wrap up the episode by highlighting many of the areas that should be on your stay woke list.

Immigration

  • ICE scandals including the arrest of 2 American women for speaking spanish in public and the 1500 undocumented children that are unaccounted for since they were taken in from the border

Wypipo

  • So we just calling cops on everyone?

Nationwide trend of police militarization

  • Images on the news of police wearing helmets and masks, toting assault rifles, and riding in mine-resistant armored vehicles are not isolated incidents
  • Unjust killings of black people by police should have been enough to prompt significant, nationwide reforms years ago. But it hasn’t been enough. Read more here.

Ep 0 – Meet Bold & Bawdy

This is our intro episode. We keep it short and sweet and introduce ourselves and what you can expect from Bold & Bawdy. If you haven’t listen to us before come and get a taste of our personalities, meet Maddie, Lina D, and Westley.