September is Sex Health Month and September 4th was World Sex Health Day. To celebrate, the No Free Drinks crew dedicated an episode to talk about sex topics that unfortunately are not always talked about in black and brown communities. In this episode, we will talk about the importance of practicing safe sex and getting tested. We also touch on topics that get in the way of having pleasurable sexual experiences such as erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness.


No Free Drinks was inspired to kick-off the sex education and wellness series after finding that sexual health is celebrated across the world. This year’s theme is “Love, Bonding, and Intimacy” and you can find more information here:


The organization that spearheads the movement is called the World Association for Sexual Health and they encourage that people join the celebration in any way they can. If you are interested in learning more and want to participate in the celebrations you can check out this worksheet:


Another important organization to know is the American Sexual Health Association- ASHA was founded in 1914 in New York City, formed out of early 20th-century social reform movements focused on fighting sexually transmitted infections and prostitution. Now, more than 100 years after its creation, ASHA remains America’s nonprofit authority for sexual health information. You can learn more here:


After introducing these organizations that play such a large role in celebrating World Sex Health Day, Lina D explains why the No Free Drinks crew decided to do a 2 part series for the vulva and they reveal that they will also be doing a 2 part series on the penis! Stayed tuned for more educational moments and orgasm tips.


Brock then goes on to define sexual health. Sexual health must go beyond traditional views of simply avoiding disease or unplanned pregnancy and should include experiencing pleasure and intimacy. Because of this, we wanted to address some less commonly talked about topics that can get in the middle of sex and achieving intimacy. We reemphasize the importance of communication is having a healthy relationship and having better sex.


Erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness are challenges that may lead to unpleasurable sexual encounters. These are important to talk about as they might not always be related to physical reasons only. Brock and Westley give advice on what to do in these situations. Reasons for erectile dysfunction might be attributed to whiskey dick, stress, over thinking, and lack of emotional connection. As a partner, it is important for you to know how to react in these situations.  Just because he has gone limp doesn’t mean that it is game over.


The female equivalent of erectile dysfunction is vaginal dryness.  Lina D talks about how using lube shouldn’t be frowned upon even if there is a preference for her getting wet from arousal.


Following that conversation, the co-hosts switch gears to talk about the importance of communicating with your partner about getting tested.  The co-hosts talk about a couple of guidelines they use to ensure they keep on top of staying safe:

  • Depends on how active and how many partners
  • At least annual
  • Whenever there unprotected sex happens with an “unknown” partner and/or nonmonogamous partner

It is important to know your status for moral, legal, criminal and/or civil implications. The co-hosts also cover the importance of practicing safe sex for protection from STIs and unwanted pregnancies.  The co-hosts agree that there are many types of protection and birth control and want to dedicate a future episode to the topic to make sure they cover all the right issues.


If you want to celebrate World Sex Health Month with us feel free to tag us in your comments and posts.  September isn’t over yet, and sexual health is an everyday priority that will contribute to a better sex life.